Is your past holding you back from living the life you deserve and desire? Although you may not always be aware of it, your present circumstances (your routine, your reality, and the people, places, and things you choose to surround yourself with) are a direct reflection of the beliefs you hold to be true about yourself. And more often than not, these limiting beliefs and behavioral patterns go way back into your past—to the core wounds that have shaped your self-image.
“When something goes unaddressed, it tends to fester. Even something that might’ve been seemingly small can get bigger and become more problematic. We see this in our physical health and it’s mirrored in our emotional health—losses and such that we push away or don’t want to deal with, can surprise us and come up in self-sabotaging ways, and cause us to be perceived in ways that we don’t want to or intend to.” – Lisa Tahir
Each one of us has experienced losses, traumas, and disappointments. And no matter what the source or scope of our trauma may be, we all seek coping strategies that suppress negative emotions in order to shield ourselves from pain. This is a natural and necessary self-defense mechanism—but also the root of all subconscious self-sabotage. We repeat patterns passed on by our primary caregivers until they become our default setting—and as time goes on, it becomes increasingly difficult to identify the root of our suffering.
If you’ve ever felt that you are not worthy or deserving of success, or suspected that you may be standing in the way of your own happiness (be it in relationships, career, or money matters), you may be resisting the deep work required to break free of your pain, heal your wounds, and move forward into a new chapter of your life. And the more you resist, the more power your fears will have over you (and the more they will manifest in your day-to-day life).
While conventional therapy is a highly effective method of identifying and moving past your vulnerabilities, there’s no denying that rehashing your past can be a time-consuming and disempowering process. That’s precisely why today’s podcast guest Lisa Tahir turned to alternative approaches to healing—using astrology as a lens through which we can understand and overcome our core wounds.
Lisa is an Intuitive Psychotherapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker. She has been doing the work of healing for more than 20 years, and recently released her debut self-healing book, ‘The Chiron Effect’, where she fuses psychology, astrology, and spirituality to help people create meaningful change in their lives.
While I’ve explored my own core wounds in the past, I’ve never seen this topic approached from an astrological angle. Lisa’s work is so needed in the world, and I have no doubt that you’re going to be as magnetized and inspired listening to this interview as I was when we recorded it. Be sure to listen to the end to find out whether or not our core wounds can ever truly be healed—and how to start the process.
In This Episode:
- Lisa’s story, from therapy to therapist
- The spectrum of vulnerability and core wounding
- What happens when we don’t address our core wounds and leave them to fester
- The links between psychotherapy, astrology, and spiritual transformation
- Explaining the Chiron Effect
- How to understand your wounding, self-heal, and see change
- What’s REALLY keeping you from living the life you desire?
- Can we ever fully cure our core wounds?
- The connection between physical, mental, and spiritual healing
- How your body and heart space lets you know you’re on the right path
Quotes:
“You can heal your vulnerabilities and your wounds, and actually be happier sooner rather than later.” — Lisa Tahir
“There are aspects of our lives that we feel we have to hide or edit from others. When talking about ourselves, we tend to leave out where we feel less than, and that continues up the spectrum to the range of core wounding, which has to do with some of the bigger traumas in life, like abandonment, neglect, and abuse.” – Lisa Tahir
“The relationship we have with ourselves sets the tone and dictates the relationships we have with everyone else, and with everything else in our lives.” – Lisa Tahir
“When something goes unaddressed, it tends to fester. Even something that might’ve been seemingly small can get bigger and become more problematic. We see this in our physical health and it’s mirrored in our emotional health—losses and such that we push away or don’t want to deal with, can surprise us and come up in self-sabotaging ways, and cause us to be perceived in ways that we don’t want to or intend to.” – Lisa Tahir
“What you do for a living, who you hang out with, whether you go to the gym or not—all these are based upon what we believe to be true for ourselves and about ourselves. And you can only go as far or as high as your most limiting belief.” – Lisa Tahir
“I invite you as a first step to try to suspend your judgments and criticisms of yourself. We harbor layer upon layer of judgment towards ourselves, thinking that’s how we change things and that’s how we get better—but it’s really not. It just causes us to feel shame about ourselves. Sometimes we might feel guilty over a behavior, something we said or did. And it’s okay to feel like maybe you could have done better there, but you don’t need to shame or blame yourself. Life will give you another opportunity. So suspend your judgment and try to be a supportive coach.” – Lisa Tahir
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