on creating a life you love

Why Putting Yourself First Is the Key to Serving Others


January 5, 2018

share this:
health & Wellness
I Heart My Life is where luxury lifestyle meets wellness. Where personal development intersects with living an elevated life. Where no dream is too big and a champagne is always a good idea. We're so glad you're here.
more categories

Are you looking to transition into the next chapter of your life? Maybe it’s a new career, starting a business or finally listening to that feeling that’s been telling you you’re meant for something more, something different — for years. Certified High Performance Coach James Williams (and Emily’s husband and business partner) is here to share his own journey from a 12-year career in TV to becoming a coach. He’s reveals how he finally moved forward with his dreams and went from extrinsic validation to finding happiness within. He also touches on what it’s like to be a man married to a driven woman and how that dynamic — a different one to what most of us grew up — requires transformation on both parts. Emily and James also speak on their own relationship and the work they’ve done to drop resentment and learn how to work together and build a stronger marriage while remaining individuals and still putting themselves first. If you’re moving forward with a big dream this episode is for you.

During this episode, we’re going to cover…

  • How to drop the “how” and move forward with your dreams despite not having all the answers
  • Why putting you first is the key to serving the world (and creating successful relationships)
  • How to handle the naysayers in your life (especially if one’s your romantic partner)
  • The power of surrounding yourself with people who inspire you when you’re making a change and what to look for
  • Some of the top practices and learnings from being a couple working together and from our year working with our relationship coach

One of my favorite quotes from this episode is this:

“We were born with an imagination so that we could think of things that were outside reality, outside what we’ve experienced in our life. Like I said, flying to the moon, it’s not something anyone had ever done before, so how could you imagine what it’d be like? Just fly there and find out and figure out as you go.” – James Williams


After 12 years working in TV graphics, James could no longer ignore the feeling that he had more to give — and it wasn’t in the industry he found himself. He left TV to join his wife Emily in her personal development business and studied to become a Certified High Performance Coach through the High Performance Institute created by Brendon Burchard. James integrated his coaching into the programs at I Heart My Life, hosting teleclasses, co-hosting events and providing one on one coaching through his High Performance Program. James has now expanded his coaching onto a group High Performance program and is following a passion to work with couples who wish to raise their level of performance and potential together.




Tune into the I Heart My Life Show with Success Coach Emily Williams to learn how to design a life you love, manifest more success and wealth, move past fear and blocks and create joy in your life and business. Emily and her world-renowned guests will help you create a life that’s better than your dreams and give you tangible action steps to get there — quickly. She’ll cut through the fluff and share what’s worked for her and the world’s most successful people. She believes that success is an inside job — not just about another strategy. The I Heart My Life Show will help you finally heart your life, experience extraordinary success, make more money, live according to your own desires and give you permission to go after what you really want.

How to Get Anything You Want Masterclass

We're going to show you exactly how to get the life and success that you're craving. This is our BEST teaching taught by our Founder Emily Williams and what has helped thousands of women around the world transform their lives. And now it's your turn. It includes a bonus workbook + other surprise tools to support your growth.





I started I Heart My Life from my kitchen table in a tiny London apartment in 2013.

After going through a 5-year quarter-life crisis, I discovered the world of personal development and the power of a gratitude journal and finally got clear on my true purpose in life: to help women fall in love with themselves and their lives. I Heart My Life has gone through many transformations over the years, but its mission has always remained the same: we exist to teach you how to create a life that you love.