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I’m back in London and loving the sunshine (yes, you heard that right!). It’s nice to be settled and into a routine after travelling for two weeks.

If you’re anything like me, one of my favorite things about traveling is the food. (My NYC photoshoot even included some blueberry pancakes – more on that coming soon!)

One of the things I’m not so into is working out, but just like the rest of the world, I know it’s good for me, and that I’ll feel amazing once I’m done with my gym session. So I do it. (Don’t worry – I’m working on transforming my mindset when it comes to that one!)

Most days, I’m pretty good at channelling the motivation, but there was one day in particular while we were in Florida when I was really resistant to going to the gym in the morning.

I woke up dreading my workout. I knew I’d much rather get up, put on my bathing suit, have a gorgeous breakfast and dive into my book. Running wasn’t “feeling” good to me even though I knew it would be good for me.

So I did the easy thing – I lathered on my SPF 20 and settled into that comfy lounge chair an hour earlier than normal while James worked up a sweat in the gym. After all, I was on vacation right?

The truth is though, although it was what I wanted, it felt awful.

I felt like I’d let myself down and experienced guilt for most of the day. I couldn’t let it go.

I didn’t enjoy that waffle at breakfast or the rest of the yummy food later on. I had less energy overall, was in a terrible mood and was no closer to my health goals. I felt blah.

And as I journaled later that day, it hit me: It’s far more stressful and upsetting to be in a place of resistance than to actually do something you don’t want to do (but know will help you reach your goals).

Talk about an “aha!” moment.

I’m going to say it again…

It’s far more stressful to be in a place of resistance than to actually do something you don’t want to do.

I could have been done with that workout in under an hour! The fact that I didn’t do it meant I had repercussions for a whole day. That’s far longer than 60 minutes. Ick!

Now you may be wondering what this has to do with you getting a life and biz better than your dreams, but stick with me…

So often, I see my clients go into resistance mode – especially at the start of their biz. Whether it’s launching that new program, getting that program page up, sending that sales email – you name it.

Then because they don’t take action, they feel guilty, stuck and unhappy for weeks.

If they would have just done it in the first place, they could have avoided all of the crap that comes with resistance.

Maybe you can relate, lovely.

I’ve never had the biz resistance issue – I tend to just go for it, but when it comes to working out, I totally get it. That one’s much trickier for me, and I see resistance come up on a daily basis.

One of the concepts that’s helped me greatly over the past month that I’m so excited to share with you today is Mel Robbin’s 5-second rule.

Click below to watch a video on the topic…

Mel has discovered that in order to be much more likely to take action on behalf of what you want (losing weight, your dream biz, more money, more clients, a transformed mindset) you have to take at least one step in that direction within 5 seconds otherwise your mind will talk you out of it.

Your mind will convince you that it’s okay to lay on the lounge chair, watch another episode of Real Housewives or put off that meditation – instead of taking the action that actually gets you closer to what you want.

And the cool thing is that that one step in those first 5 seconds can be easy – as simple as turning on your computer, putting on your gym shoes, logging into your website, coming up with a subject line for your newsletter etc.

That one step is the difference between you taking action or remaining in a place of resistance.

And for me, being in resistance is a horrible place to be. It’s such a waste of energy and time and absolutely no good comes from it.

I know you hear me, lovely.

So this week, practice taking action within those first 5-seconds even when your mind is trying to talk you out of it. Even when those fears creep up. Even when lack of confidence rears it’s ugly head.

Take action. You’ve got this, and I believe in you!

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