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Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life: How Letting Go of Your Victim Story Can Transform Your Life


February 7, 2018

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Did you know it’s estimated that 1 in 10 people have dyslexia? If you’re one of them, you know how much it can impact your life, especially as a kid in school. It can lower your self-esteem and make you feel as though you don’t “fit in.” But you are more than a label. And you know you are meant for something big, but your stories are holding you back.

Have you ever felt like you didn’t fit in at school? Were you surrounded by people telling you that you would never amount to anything? If so, you know how devastating that can be, especially when you know you’re meant for something more. But how do you move past those old stories and mindsets holding you back?  

In this episode of the IHML Show, Philip McKernan shows us the success and power that is possible when you dig deep, let go of perceived inadequacies and take action in the most authentic ways. Growing up in Ireland, Philip was told he would never amount to anything. Most of his life, especially his school years, was defined by the challenges he faced with dyslexia. Despite his struggles, Philip knew deep down he was destined for something different. He began to change his mindset, release his victim story and put one foot in front of the next and move forward. Philip started his coaching business with $200 in the bank and is now a sought-after international speaker, writer and filmmaker. He works with entrepreneurs and business leaders all over the world to support them in developing self-worth, finding clarity in their future and keying into their intuition. After listening to this episode, you’ll understand how releasing old stories and taking intuitive action, even in the smallest of ways, can help you create a life better than your dreams.

During this episode we’re going to cover:

  • How giving a small speech at a wedding helped him realize his gift and passion for speaking  
  • Why surrounding yourself with the right community makes such a difference in transforming yourself and your business
  • How Philip went from giving free coaching sessions at a local pub to actually charging for his work
  • How going deep and doing the “inner work” freed him from limiting beliefs and helped to up level his life
  • Why we should put precedence and value on our past
  • How to notice the CLUES your life leaves you (and incorporate their lessons into your work!)
  • The “Five Happiest Days” exercise, which will help you create even more amazing days in your life

One of my favourite quotes from this episode is this:

“My life is so much better than I could ever have imagined. I think the reason it’s been great is because I haven’t locked on to a dream or an aspiration, or a vision of what it could be like. I think my thinking was limited and corrupted by a lot of the things that I’ve done, the places that I’ve come from, what people have said to me. I used to goal set like crazy years ago, I don’t goal set anymore in the traditional sense. I don’t have a vision board, I don’t have the top five things I wanna do. What’s really created a lot of the success in the last year has been really unbelievable. The people I’m working with, the projects we’re getting to do. For me, it’s been this really, really challenging road of just letting go.” – Philip McKernan


Philip works with entrepreneurs and business leaders all over the world. When people are seeking clarity about their future or want to move through roadblocks, seen and unseen, they call Philip. As a speaker he has inspired and challenged the Canadian Olympic Team and The Pentagon to name a few.

He helps people get clear on who they are and where they need to go. He helps them transition in their personal and professional lives so people feel aligned in all areas of life. Philip believes who and what we do ‘off the ice’ has a huge impact on our results ‘on the ice’.

What separates Philip from a lot of coaches, speakers and gurus is originality. He brings new conversations to the table and spends an obscene amount of time thinking and challenging the status quo, instead of simply repackaging business & life hacking strategies. Philip McKernan is a philosopher, a modern day philosopher of the human experience.

With a knack of getting into all sorts of scenarios – he’s caddied in golf for the President of Ireland, been chased and nearly killed by a bull elephant in Nigeria and made wine in Australia. He has traveled to 80 countries around the globe and has worked with orphans in Sri Lanka, Peru, India and Guatemala, written 4 books despite being dyslexic and his first documentary film will be released in late 2016. The film explores how the gift of giving makes us feel more worthy and alive. It also explores the science behind the impact of giving on our emotional well being, our mental health, our physiology and our business’s.

Philip believes the path to a happy and fulfilling life is found through the meaning we derive in life through the WORK we do, our relationship to OTHERS and the most important relationship of all, the one with one’s SELF.



Tune into the I Heart My Life Show with Success Coach Emily Williams to learn how to design a life you love, manifest more success and wealth, move past fear and blocks and create joy in your life and business. Emily and her world-renowned guests will help you create a life that’s better than your dreams and give you tangible action steps to get there — quickly. She’ll cut through the fluff and share what’s worked for her and the world’s most successful people. She believes that success is an inside job — not just about another strategy. The I Heart My Life Show will help you finally heart your life, experience extraordinary success, make more money, live according to your own desires and give you permission to go after what you really want.



I started I Heart My Life from my kitchen table in a tiny London apartment in 2013.

After going through a 5-year quarter-life crisis, I discovered the world of personal development and the power of a gratitude journal and finally got clear on my true purpose in life: to help women fall in love with themselves and their lives. I Heart My Life has gone through many transformations over the years, but its mission has always remained the same: we exist to teach you how to create a life that you love.

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