Today I’m coming to you with a very special message and a link to watch my most recent Facebook LIVE.
This is my most watched video ever (posted in my I Heart My Lifers group) with hundreds of comments, nearly 1500 views at the time this message is going out and tons of emails and FB messages. I knew I had to share it with you today in case you missed it.
But before we get to that, let me share how all of this started and why I felt called to record this video…
Last December I was at the Titan Summit hosted by Robin Sharma (look him up after you watch my video if you don’t know him!). The four days were filled with lots of “a-ha’s” and the world’s most amazing and inspirational speakers. The highs were high but there were also some lows like the one I’m sharing with you today.
On the second to last day, as we were in the middle of completing an exercise, Robin asked us a question that changed me forever. He asked if we were happy.
I’m sure reading that question doesn’t make it sound very riveting, but for me in that moment, it was because of what I heard next…
I was stunned.
Then I heard: “What?! Emily, what’s wrong with you?! You should just be grateful for what I have an not want more. You have a wonderful life, business and husband. You hit 7-figures. You have amazing clients. You live in a beautiful home. You’re in Zurich with billionaires. What more could you want?”.
It didn’t add up, and it’s confusing when you get what you want and find that you’re still not happy, right? (After all, during my quarter-life crisis, I’d been so sure that when my vision board manifested into a new reality, I’d be much happier — and most of it had come true.)
So what went wrong?
Long story short, I knew something had to change and that there were people out there who could help. So for the past few months, I’ve been on a deep transformational journey with quite a few coaches (all 7 and 8-figure business owners) who I speak to every week.
And I’ve been talking about this stuff a bit in my paid coaching programs. For example, on a recent call with my I Heart Coaching clients, one of the incredible ladies brought up the fact that she knows she’ll feel more fulfilled, happy, confident (all the “good” emotions) when she gets her business off the ground, is making money, gets in shape etc. (Everything that was also on my vision board back in the day!)
I hated to burst her bubble, but at least in my recent experience, that’s not where happiness comes from. And if you’re not happy now, although those things may be your desire, true happiness comes from within and from a very different place. So she and I did some transformational work live on the call.
And a few days later, I had a session with one of my own coaches, and I told him about that group call. I also told him that I know in my heart that my work in the world is so much bigger than “sales funnels” or encouraging people to work hard. (Not that there’s anything wrong with either!). I told him I know that the impact I’m meant to have is to support women in having a business and life that they love and that that involves deep transformational work. He helped me see that I could start spreading my message now, I didn’t have to wait to have it all figured out. He told me to “take off my tight shoes so I could really walk free”.
And 10 minutes later, this video came out of me…
Before clicking play, here’s what I want you to do at this point in our journey together today:
1. Watch the video.
2. Come back to this email and read everything below the video.
3. Respond to this email and share your thoughts and what’s coming up for you. (Please don’t offer me your coaching services — as much as I appreciate that, I already have a team around me.)
I hope it’s obvious at this point, lovely, that we’re all a work in progress and you don’t have to wait until you have it all figured out right now to share, be vulnerable, show your humanity and make an impact. (I joked with James that my next book — after Hot Mess to Mega Success — is going to be call, Mega Success, Still a Mess.)
Pain is not bad. Pain and growth are needed to get stronger and to go to the next level.
And that thing stirring inside of you that’s saying “this isn’t it” — listen to it and channel the bravery needed to go to the next level and find your joy! You deserve it all, lovely.
Which leads me to a final thought on what brings me joy and what’s in store for I Heart My Life.
One of the things that Brendon Burchard said to us recently at our Mastermind back in January is that “alignment is often the problem, not action”.
I so relate to that. I’m the queen of action, but in my experience, it needs to be paired with alignment for it to result in happiness and joy. In December, I was feeling out of alignment, and if I’m honest burnt out.
So what’s my purpose? What’s feeling aligned for me right now? Yes, the “business stuff” is part of it, but I know my work is also about your life, you as a woman and your soul.
To give you an idea, over the past few months I’ve been working on…
Human being vs human doing
My morning routine
Speaking my truth
Expressing my emotions
Stepping into my purpose
The Law of Attraction
Stepping into my power
7 and 8-figure money mindset
Deep beliefs that hold us back
Dropping the addiction to hard work
The power of now
I’m so excited because I feel like I’ve come full circle. I started I Heart My Life to help women love their life and themselves. Yes, that includes business, sales funnels, launches etc. but it goes so much deeper than that, and I’m ready to do the deep work with you. That work is what will get you everything you want — and to a level that’s not possible without it. I have so much more to teach you!
Now, do I know exactly what that looks like at this second? No. Do I know the exact program I was born to create that will be my legacy forever and ever? No. But I know it’s on its way, and that I can take some steps forward based on what excites me and is in alignment with the way in which I want to impact the world and you starting today.
For me, that looks like sharing my journey, what I’ve learned so far and then being tuned in to discover what’s meant to come next.
With that, thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a part of this incredible community, lovely and for being a part of this journey with me.
As I mentioned above, I’d love to hear your thoughts so please feel free to respond to this email by hitting reply. (Only kind messages, please.)
I’ll look forward to talking to you soon. I love you!